Fetish, Kink, what is this?

The word fetish in terms of sex can be broadly explained as “objects and or practice which are integral to enhance the sexual experience”. What is truly fascinating is the diversity of preferences, props and practices people choose to include in their sex play. What is also interesting is how some peoples choices drives the fantasies of others.

Sex is physical, but the sexual experience is driven by emotion and imagination and that experience can be defined through preferences, props and practice, things that define as fetish. For those outside the experience, they define it in more pop cultural terms – which helps to enhance the perception of fetish sex. Terms like “different, dirty, taboo, freaky” or the ultimate catch all “kinky”, make someone's sex play much more dramatic. Particularly if they for the first time, have the opportunity to experience, their arousal is heighten by the expectation and the thought of doing something “kinky”.

Much of this becomes a matter of relativity. What I like and do with my sexual playmates is different than what you like and do. So relative to each other, we are both kinky. Now, for the most part as people are more willing to express and experience more openly, their sexual desires, things such as bondage, spankings, S&M, Dominance and submission, exhibitionism, voyeurism etc. Once the stuff of dark desires and fantasy, they are more mainstream. Many more people are realizing that “yes, I can experience my fantasies and they are normal and there are others that want to experience those same things with me".

As we mature, we realize and accept our own sexuality and embrace our own desires and we find we are more accepting of others and their sexuality. In general we become more enlightened and embolden to truly enjoy our sex so, “get your freak on! And get kinky with your playmate!